I took a couple MBTI tests (different websites) and came up with INFJ-A. Go up to a woman and just start taking to her. The longer and longer you live at home, the lower your dateability (on the macro scale of course). Society has already decided that if you dont have friends, something is wrong with you. • 12 yr. People find this hard to believe, as I’m friendly and bubbly. ago. Women with no female friends. MembersOnline. ilpalazzo3. Also people are superficial now in days. If you’d attended my 21 st birthday party, you wouldn’t believe that I would be in this friendless situation, 15 years later. People loose touch with each other over time, whether it's for a specific reason or just because life happened and didn't keep in touch. It's a huge red flag for me. When I was 25 I would say I easily had 10-12 " good" friends. 3. However, I wouldn't enter a relationship hoping to change you; you would have to already have started the process. 33, no friends. Check out your local library for events like storytime or music. It's always the same outcome. I'm not sure. I have many more male friends (lived with two dudes through out 4 years of college) than I have female friends. For context, this was a group of 6th graders that I don't normally interact with (usually I'm supporting a 7th-grader) but still funny. How do you spend your time if it’s not with friends? When dating , do you reveal your lack of friends? Is no friends off putting? Mar 28, 2024 · 703 votes, 365 comments. May 27, 2014 · Even in the past few years at 24, even at 25-years-old, I’ve struggled to make friends. Are you an adult woman with zero friends at the moment? What do you do with your time? Are you satisfied with your life now?… Mar 4, 2021 · If a man has no friends or an intimate social support system, does that mean he doesn't need one? Nope. But Reddit will still think the poor baby is incapable of making relationship decisions if she dates a guy in his 30s/40s. . I've had a few friends who I met up sometimes to play rec volleyball. It’s hard to fake happiness when you’re lonely all the time, but try to fake it and smile when people look at you. You might even have to make the first move. I wouldn't postpone the wedding because of a lack of friends, because you may make loads in that time, or may even still make no super close friends who you'd be comfortable having as your bridesmaids. I can’t speak for how others will react, though—as you’ve seen, people may either assume things or be fearful for you. It's fine to expect a man to be friends with you before getting serious. ABirdOfParadise. As a married man I would never have a female friend cause it would be disrespectful to my wife. Such feelings can't just be "switched off". or just stop hanging out with them. Every single persons life is different, and that means having different personal connections from each other. I have PTSD, depression, anxiety, and I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. The answer is still obviously yes even when you know about dogs also being mammals. Read alot - women appreciate depth of knowledge Doing something physical everyday - its amazing what a little exercise every day can do to a body. However, a man who wants to "be just friends" is not interested in you. I know 40 year olds who act like children. 4. A few years ago I was overweight, no friends, no hobbies (outside of gaming which I subjectively don’t count for myself), no future All 4 of those things are different now. I'm a woman in my 30s and I don't have close friends because I never made time to seek out the friendships I now wish I had. Gay men are a different animal altogether. Yes! Kids are old enough for mom to leave the house for several hours a day. Find a hobby for when they’re in school and in a couple of years when the youngest is more independent, you can find hobbies for any time, too. This Women A was in her 40's (I think I've always been a decade younger), she's always single, active, and loud. I'm so grateful to have had them in my life. I don’t have any friends. They can also find friendship and support though mom groups sooooo swipe left. My response? "Allegedly". It’s the parents’ responsibility to make sure their child knows how to keep themselves safe (or to not allow their child to interact with online strangers if they can’t keep themselves safe). I've always been a loner and antisocial but the lack of any close friends I feel like has taken a serious toll on my mental The $649 Disney Flex Passport, the newest Disneyland annual pass, is best known for allowing visitors to make reservations on typical Disneyland annual pass blockout dates. I wouldn't date a man or woman without friends. The boozy party that my parents threw for me at the local pub was attended by over 70 friends. How about trying something different to attract friends and maybe even get laid sometime in the next year. Definitely the best way to infiltrate into a friend group is through mutual hobbies/passions, so definitely keep that in mind. 33 year old male. There are many more women with children than without (in the US: only 15% of women over 40 are child free) and their family responsibilities put them in situations where it would be nearly impossible to not meet other moms. Maybe they too don't even feel comfortable about it all the time or even at all. That's a green flag. kill them and bury them in lyme. An "unrequited love". 1K votes, 74 comments. Nope. In most states pre school is free now. That’s how I got in 😂 But if you’re a man you’re not even allowed to need emotional support because that means you’re weak. For example, "Being alone means no one wants to Therefore, men and women cannot truly be friends, we are hardwired to procreate and it will always lead more than just friends. This is essentially a mirror to LittleWindowpane's post today regarding women with no male friends. Reply reply. r/PurplePillDebate. I suspect I am also autistic. Ask INFJs. Could be lots of reasons, but if the reasons are she is selfish or doesn't have empathy for others then yeah red flag. Ideally, you want a balance. Jun 17, 2024 · Try this simple four-step process. All depends on the person. Basically I am looking for a good guide to life as a woman, from all aspects. Students ask if I am actually a grown woman. I also noticed that at least at this age, no one really wants to just hang out anymore. I want to know how other women are experiencing/navigating life without friendships or even close acquaintances. Getting involved with someone who doesn't want to work on relationships isn't someone who I would want to be with. All that to say, yes-- it can work, but it is not without its pitfalls. To them it screams "Serial killer" because main stream media shows those type of docos. It doesn't get better. I’m curious if others in that same area have found that they aren’t interested in having friendships? Over the years, I’m 45 and male, I’ve found that having friends is so difficult in that it requires so much upkeep No friends = red flag. We welcome anyone seeking advice of a non-professional nature. She be cautious look for more issues. I grew up with more male influence than female influence, so I turned out to be more comfortable with men than I am with women. Put him in pre school. Discussion. If you have multiple libraries near you, try a few and look for some that are near a park so you can see if anyone wants to play after. Basically, I would date a guy with no friends/social life, but the "I can't do it" attitude is a turn-off, especially as someone who has gone through it myself numerous times and proving that, yes, I can. Nor is it strange that you don't have friends from childhood. I'm getting married in the next couple of years and realizing that I have no one to ask to be in my wedding party hurts The thing is that we've slowly grown apart, I have made efforts and want to be able to engage with them as I did before. Hell, at 24-25 years of age a woman can have earned a master’s degree. In that time you might also become closer to his sisters/cousins/friends. I’m sorry that you feel this way and I wish you could just find a friend and begin to feel better. Yes, it happens every day. Don’t give up. korkdaddy69. SomeArtist. But OP, I think your perspective is a little off, too. either or. Drift apart. Friends from high school faded away or turned to shitty people cheating on their wives. Typically, many men will have to walk away and detach, because these feelings make the friendship too painful to be in. Probably wrong Sub, I feel stupid, thanks Reply reply JymFriday. PurplePillDebate is a neutral community to discuss sex and gender issues, specifically those pertaining to r/TheBluePill and r/TheRedPill. I don’t think it’s red flag unless they’re the reason those friendships ended. I want to talk to them about how they've helped me so much, in regards to getting out of my own shell, and do things I'd never thought I'd do before. Even my current group of friends is 2 guys I only interact with in a group chat and one lives about a mile from me and two guys that we get together with the families every couple of months and those two guys are good friends with each other. The Disney Deluxe Passport, a middle-of-the-road pass which offers admission outside of holidays and peak weekends, costs $829. All of those relationships can exist simultaneously just like dogs and cats and This is a subreddit dedicated to asking women for advice. The reality is after I got out of the Bar scene friends dropped dramatically, then after I had a family and others had families the friend circle dropped further. Another kid was shooting rubber bands with his fingers and pointed it at me before I raised my brow and said "You realize that In regards to friends, I tried the meetup stuff but it just hasn;t been a success really. And as a counter argument Ik a few 18 yr olds who act mature when they need to be, it really just depends on the person Bc the other person here is also right to there are 40 yr olds who act like they are 5. Legal or medical advice is not permitted, and neither is advice on ways to get your partner to do something sexual that they're not interested in. If you have similar interests ask her if she wants to do something sometime. I have expressed my desire to start a family with my current partner to my mom, and she said that if I do not have close friends, I will not be able to successfully raise a child. It doesn't mean you are true friends because you know someone well. They’re a lot of reasons why she might not have friends. ClarityofDisaster. 1. . At first I was like, "no no no, but thank you. A man who won't "wait" might be unreasonable. That can be social clout, that can be energy they enjoy that you give them, anything. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Every time I show up, she would be complimenting me to no ends for ppl to hear. Perhaps they even envy others ability to be more observant. You need to take care of your basic needs. I find for the most part friend groups have a mindset of the more the merrier. For example, "I'm alone. They immediately see it as a huge red flag. Edit 1: this is meant in reference to fully heterosexual men and women. [deleted] • 2 yr. But it’s true. A couple/few close friends, however, is what I actually prefer. That being said, now that we all have kids or careers or both, sometimes we go a little while without talking, but we still pre-covid went to movies or out to concerts at least once a month together as a group. I’m in my early 20’s and I have no idea how to dress nicely, look put-together, how to put together a nice resume. It’s mind boggling. For some it may be natural, for some it's maintained. I'm 44 and I'd say I have probably 3-5 "friends". And somehow these people get to act like they’re the morality police. Common sense doesn’t mean grown though. " I don't know why Reddit thinks men and women can't have platonic friendships. I have a kinda rocky relationship with my mother, so I didn’t really learn how to be a grown woman. If you have no money, you might be skimping on your own bills in order to help others. Lastly, I am not saying you cant have friends/acquaintances of It's true that some women have a more expressive outer confidence about them, but you never know. E) A lot of the time people are only friends with you via a transactionary nature. I am almost 31 and haven't grown apart from my friends. We're all members of a social species and friends are important. The Y axis is your dateability - higher is better. Hence, the meaning of "men and women can't be friends", doesn't refer to men being sleazy sex obsessives who view women as objects. We talk every couple of weeks. Age plays a role in this as well honestly. It was easier to convince myself that I didn’t need friends and that they were actually just a liability rather than I life enhancing asset. Begin with a neutral statement about your social situation. ADMIN MOD. A subreddit for rage comics and other memes with a girly slant. As the title says, I'm a woman with zero close female friends and lately it's been wearing me down, especially when I see all the women around me at work, in my family, etcthat have those close female friends in their life. In this case, men and women who can be just friends, men and women who can be friends with benefits, and men and women who can only be romantic. Looking for books on how to be a grown woman. I wouldn't say it's a red flag, but you have to wonder why she has no friends. I've had trouble making and (especially) keeping friends my whole life. You have to initiate things and keep the friendship going. Guy perspective: yes, it's possible. If you’re still spending most of the day cleaning up after each kid and that prevents you from having time for yourself If you have no energy, you won't be able to do these either and you won't want to because you are so exhausted. The plus side is that women are generally given more leeway on this matter than men are so your slope isn't going to be as steep as an average man. For example, "I don't have any friends or family members. " Continue to ask yourself what your previous statement means about you. " Next, ask yourself what this means about you. Many things can exist simultaneously. Have an ok time but nothing ever really comes of it. For whatever reason, a lot of females (not me) think a guy with no friends is screepy (I don't). Posted by u/throwaway1145667 - 3 votes and 3 comments INFJ-A with no friends…by choice. HappyAnt21. They are either dating, married. Ok, never mind, but I mean it is not normal to not have girlfriends at all and just a 2 friends. F) White women can be really fickle, so be guarded. You'll just do things together less and less often, then communicate less and less often, and eventually people move on. Starting a Family with No Friends. I, too, tend to make only a few close friends, so it would be cool if we're on the same page socially. Award. Show up, awkwardly sit around and maybe talk with a few people. The basic need to procreate is in men. It also could be a situation where she lost a lot of friendships over time. Also excluding family, except for some parts of the world, you know who you are. It doesn't get better : r/nofriends. Men and women can't just be friends. It's a bit weird when a guy has a ton of friends, none of whom he's really close with. If you see no reason for friends, I don't want to know your reasons for wanting a girlfriend. 17. [deleted] • 12 yr. •. 833K subscribers in the TrollXChromosomes community. Your mental and physical health. A lot can happen in 2 years. cl ya hp fi qt au at hq ms rk